Morning Coffee with Fanny

In the relentless pursuit of a balanced life , we often find ourselves engulfed in the whirlwind of responsibilities, be it excelling in school, maintaining a thriving social life or ensuring the happiness of those around us. As we juggle these obligations, we unknowingly slip into a cycle of self-sabotage, allowing our dreams and passions to wither in the shadows of our busy lives. I have come to realise the invisible chains I have woven around my aspirations, burying them deep within the recesses of my mind. In the pursuit of being everything for everyone, i lost myself in the process. The dreams I once held dear and the passions that fuelled my soul became mere dusty relics on a forgotten bookshelf. The desire to create content for Youtube, blog and instagram which once sparked joy in my heart, became overshadowed by the obligations that dictated my life. Instead, I chose to showcase the aspects of my life that society deemed successful while locking away the fragments of my true se...

What I love the most about my birthday this year, is the growth I have experienced. I am more aware of my surroundings.   While a few weeks back I had lamented some of the life decisions I had made in my past year. I have learnt to embrace the consequences of my decisions. That is what I admire about this lady I am and still becoming. This past year has taught me to love and appreciate myself. To think over my decisions before I put them into actions. In the process, I have learnt to embrace rewarding myself with things that matter and truly excite me. Acts of kindness and appreciation towards myself has unlocked another level of love within me. The love I have for myself is enough. With my new age, I feel like there’s another level of confidence in myself that I have unlocked. Here is to achieving everything I desire this year. Let’s be unstoppable.                                       ...

 I am at an age were my agements and I are seeking achievements. A working age. A marriage age (YIKES!), LOL. A business age.  A do something meaningful with your life age. Which is to me thrilling. A point in our lives were we are loaded with so much to do. Our minds hover over unfinished assignments, deadlines, work stress, links ups, relationship maintenance and  travel destinations. Through all these trials and tribulations, how many of us actually prioritise ourselves? We find ourselves clinging on to that one friend that only calls when they seek help, or holding on to a job that barely appreciate our inputs, or stuck in a relationship were ones partner is sweet and charming to everyone but never fulfils his or her promises to you. Unfortunately, we find ourselves putting off our goals. Say NO to letting yourself down. Focus your energy in putting effort to further elevate yourself. Do not let boundaries  set by others block your sight or your lifestyle. Focus ...

We all hit rock bottom differently but how we face it, is what matters the most. Some years back I abruptly decided to stop dating and take some time off. I felt like there was more to life other than just dating and I was craving something more mentally and emotionally. It wasn’t exactly a dark time in my life but a time for self realization. Till this day, I preach it was the best decision I ever made. I made that decision precisely when I was in a good place. I did not want to be just in a “good” place, I wanted to be in a better place. During my time off, I fully focused on me and what made me happy. I dedicated my time to reading, watching movies (this is also the period I fell in love with watching series), school, and going out to have fun (peacefully have fun). Oh and I ate a lot of take away. I became my own person and in the process I found a limitless abundance of happiness within. I gained the “happy weight” people gain when they are in happy relationships.  . When we t...

Rome was not built in one day. I am sure some of us, if not all, have hit a brick wall trying to figure ourselves out. I recall a point in my life, some years back I acknowledged and accepted that the most toxic person in my life was myself. I love to see my family, friends any anyone around me happy and was always bending to put them first in everything. My toxic trait was putting everyone first and expecting them to reciprocate and they did not even try.  Long story short, I looked within and asked myself why I felt the need to always be there for everyone and why I always neglected myself. Time allowed me these tiresome experiences, which led to my realisation that people were not the problem, I was. I had to start putting my needs and wants ahead of others. I took a leap of faith to detach myself from the world and be available to the parts of myself I had long neglected. Day after day, well thats an exaggeration, but week after week, I pushed myself to focus on my craft a...

 I cannot fathom how people work an 8 to 5 job each and everyday. I work every other week and boy do I get worn out. After work, I have devoted my time to grabbing some ice cream on my way home and it is something I count down to everyday. It is a way to calm and relax my nerves. In short, it pieces me back together. On that point, we all feel different after long hours of work and we need to unwind, therefore, it is very important for us to indulge in activities that make us, us. Activities that bring back our sanity. Having ice cream is just one way of doing just that, and dad has since jumped on the bandwagon and it is now a father-daughter "thing", besides bonding over wine. Certain people prefer to keep to themselves after work, but sometimes your ritual is your gateway to bonding with your loved ones (family and friends). Find something to do that relaxes you and enjoy doing it while you are at it. Affirmation: I am peace. HERE IS TO MORE COFFEE TALKS 

Alas! The five months of January have come to an end. Posting last month was a challenge and totally out of question as my schedule was quite hectic. But I pulled through and I am back with my weekly posts. 2020 definitely took us all by surprise and I would like to call this year 2020 2.0 reason being that last year we were blind sided but as we face the virus this year we have more experience.   We start off knowing that we know how to manoeuvre around the situation we are faced with. We keep our heads held high and we do not stop until we achieve our goals. Let us build ourselves and each other and make it an even greater year. You and i are meant to achieve more than we envision. And "when you think you have exhausted all possibilities, remember that you have not". Here is to you and I. Affirmation: I am love                                                 ...