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UNEARTHING THE CHAINS OF SELF-SABOTAGE


In the relentless pursuit of a balanced life , we often find ourselves engulfed in the whirlwind of responsibilities, be it excelling in school, maintaining a thriving social life or ensuring the happiness of those around us. As we juggle these obligations, we unknowingly slip into a cycle of self-sabotage, allowing our dreams and passions to wither in the shadows of our busy lives. I have come to realise the invisible chains I have woven around my aspirations, burying them deep within the recesses of my mind.

In the pursuit of being everything for everyone, i lost myself in the process. The dreams I once held dear and the passions that fuelled my soul became mere dusty relics on a forgotten bookshelf. The desire to create content for Youtube, blog and instagram which once sparked joy in my heart, became overshadowed by the obligations that dictated my life. Instead, I chose to showcase the aspects of my life that society deemed successful while locking away the fragments of my true self behind closed doors.

Unbeknownst to me, I was my own worst enemy. The excuses I crafted with precision were barriers I erected to protect myself from facing my dreams and aspirations head-on. I allowed self-doubt to take the wheel, convincing myself that I lacked the time, resources or talent needed to pursue my passions. I cocooned myself in a protective layer of self-sabotage, preventing any risk of failure while simultaneously ensuring that success remained elusive.

As I stood in front of the mirror of self-reflection, i confronted the person who had been standing in the way of my own progress. the acknowledgment of myself sabotaging tendencies was both liberating and terrifying. I could no longer hide behind the veneer of excuses. I made peace with the present and forgave myself. I am quite big on forgiving myself.

Armed with newfound awareness and self-compassion, i decided to break the cycle of this dry spell. I have chosen to start small, by carving out pockets of time each day dedicated to my creative pursuits. The fear of inconsistency still lingers, but i refuse to let it dedicate my actions any longer. With each passing day, I inhale and take a deep breath and allow myself to be vulnerable, sharing my thoughts , creations and passions with those around me and the world.

The journey to consistency is an ongoing one, but as i have began to nurture my creative endeavours with dedication and care, I am slowly discovering the joys of authenticity. Embracing my passions allows me to connect with others on a deeper level, it fosters a sense of belonging and fulfilment. I have come to the realisation that authenticity is not only about presenting a perfect imagine of oneself but also about sharing the raw and unfiltered aspects of our lives. Of my life.

Breaking free from the chains of sabotage is a transformative process that requires courage, self-awareness and compassion. As I labour through each day, I encourage you to embrace your authentic selves unapologetically. Celebrate every step forward, no matter how small and even if no one claps for you. You are doing fine, remember that.

I am dusting off my forgotten dreams and bringing them into the light and so should you. Let us rise above the self doubt and let our passion guide us. And above everything, let us do everything and act with love.

                              HERE IS TO MORE CHERISHED COFFEE TALKS💋☕

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