WHEN YOU HIT YOUR LOWEST POINT

We all hit rock bottom differently but how we face it, is what matters the most.

Some years back I abruptly decided to stop dating and take some time off. I felt like there was more to life other than just dating and I was craving something more mentally and emotionally. It wasn’t exactly a dark time in my life but a time for self realization.

Till this day, I preach it was the best decision I ever made. I made that decision precisely when I was in a good place. I did not want to be just in a “good” place, I wanted to be in a better place. During my time off, I fully focused on me and what made me happy. I dedicated my time to reading, watching movies (this is also the period I fell in love with watching series), school, and going out to have fun (peacefully have fun). Oh and I ate a lot of take away. I became my own person and in the process I found a limitless abundance of happiness within. I gained the “happy weight” people gain when they are in happy relationships. .

When we think about hitting our lowest point we more than often relate it to something negative. It is actually not the worst thing that could happen to you and I. Choosing to be alone when something doesn’t serve you any more doesn’t equate to being lonely. Rather it is a time for self realization, growth and change. Never be afraid for the changes that may come.

Many times we meet wolves dressed in sheepskin ready to throw us off our game. Take good care of yourself, independence is not a bad thing, ignorance is not bliss. Wake up everyday and realize that you’re a strong, confident and self-reliable person.

Detach yourself from anything and anyone and move on. You deserve better.

HERE IS TO MORE COFFEE TALKS!

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