SELF IMPROVEMENT

Rome was not built in one day. I am sure some of us, if not all, have hit a brick wall trying to figure ourselves out.

I recall a point in my life, some years back I acknowledged and accepted that the most toxic person in my life was myself. I love to see my family, friends any anyone around me happy and was always bending to put them first in everything. My toxic trait was putting everyone first and expecting them to reciprocate and they did not even try. Long story short, I looked within and asked myself why I felt the need to always be there for everyone and why I always neglected myself.

Time allowed me these tiresome experiences, which led to my realisation that people were not the problem, I was. I had to start putting my needs and wants ahead of others. I took a leap of faith to detach myself from the world and be available to the parts of myself I had long neglected.

Day after day, well thats an exaggeration, but week after week, I pushed myself to focus on my craft and the business that was paying me. I am worth it, not for detaching myself but recognising that all I needed to save me was myself. I am worth it because I found happiness within and can share that happiness with others. In the process I learned to create and write content worthy to be shared with the world.

When last did you work/invest in your craft? When last did you hang out with your family? When last did you have time to yourself to relax or watch a movie? When last did you take yourself on a date? When last did you make your favourite meal?

The secret is to refocus the anger, sadness and emptiness into a positive energy, redirected into beneficial crafts. Also, learn to love and cherish your own company. Ever since, I started living for myself, I wake up everyday feeling so refreshed its insane. I am still a young lady under construction. Remember to always be kind.

AFFIRMATION: I AM KIND TO MYSELF

HERE IS TO MORE COFFEE TALKS

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