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SOLO DATES: NURTURING MY SOUL AND EMBRACING LIFE

 Life has a way of throwing us into a whirlwind of responsibilities, stress and never ending to do lists. It is easy to feel overwhelmed  and lost in the chaos. But guess what? I have discovered a secret escape, a little slice of heaven that i gift myself- my solo dates.

Imagine this: a world buzzing with hurried footsteps, blaring horns and in the midst of it all, theres me, seeking solace in the simple joy of a solo date. It has become my go-to remedy when life's pressures start weighing me down. And let me tell you, it works like magic. So, what exactly do I do on these solo dates?



I have no specific restaurant to retreat to, but I am more drawn to cafés, the cozy types to be specific. It is the way the aroma of freshly brewed coffee wraps around me like a warm hug on a chilly day. My order is always the same, a hot/ice vanilla latte. Yes, I don't compromise on the food, ever. Anything with jalapeños and spice.



Armed with a novel that's been calling my name, I find my corner and settle in. The world around me fades into the background as I lose myself in the words on the pages. The characters become my companions and the worries of the day begin to melt away. There is something incredibly therapeutic about immersing myself in a good story while sipping on my coffee and savouring each forkful of the carrot cake. 



I take it further by heading to a nearby park. There I leisurely stroll, allowing nature's serenity wash over me. I pick a quiet bench under the shed and watch children play, couples walk hand in hand and dogs wiggle their tails. It is like a part of this beautiful tapestry of life, yet in my own bubble of peaceful solitude.



Now is the best time to spill my secret. My solo dates are not just for the tough times. Oh no, they are also for the moments of triumph. Completing a daunting task, achieving a personal milestone are also reasons to celebrate. So, I find a new restaurant or revisit some of my favourite restaurants and I order something  I have never tried before. In 2020 I made a pact to expand my palette by always ordering a new dish. It is my way of patting myself on the back and a reminder saying "Hey, you did this. You made it!".

The best part is when I return home, there's a visible change in me. My shoulders are not hunched with stress, my smile is genuine and I am walking a lot lighter. The world outside remains the same but my perspective has shifted. Through these little solo adventures, I have stumbled upon the power of self-care, of creating moments that are just for me.



The solo dates have become my ritual, my own way of staying connected with myself and embracing life fully. They have taught me that it is not selfish to take time for myself, it is rather necessary. And as I continue to nurture this beautiful practice of self love, I find that I am not just in touch with the world around me, but also the incredible person I am becoming someone who is stronger, happier and more alive than ever before.

You too deserve a solo date. Trust me, you deserve it.


HERE IS TO MORE COFFEE TALKS.


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